In the last blog, I mentioned complexes which tend to be created in our childhood. Imagine, a child that’s crying being told how annoying they are being. In that moment, the child learns that feelings alienate them from others and create a complex where emotions are best kept to oneself.
In our quest to have a relationship with one’s self, we need to reverse those beliefs by reparenting ourselves, which is relating to ourselves in a loving manner. The next time you’re sad, imagine you are a child (the child within you) and tell yourself that a part of you is seeking compassion. Sit with those feelings, and yes, they will be uncomfortable. Try to not engage in any thoughts that would rather criticize or belittle you. This is the first step in loving yourself unconditionally.
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